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Time For Change

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Most likely, this isn’t going to be the post you’d assume from the title. It’s not dramatic but it’s important which is a good enough reason for me to keep writing. I want to change, or in other words, stop changing. If you’re confused, I don’t blame you because this has been an overwhelming feeling of mine for the past few months.

I’m spontaneous and I get bored VERY easily. Whether that be from eating the same meal every week, living in the same space every day or just simply watching a long film. There is a positive side to this, I promise. Having this turbulent nature in me means that I change myself and my surroundings frequently. And it’s not just something as shallow as changing my hair colour. Saying that though, I’m currently thinking of going darker – what do you think?

I often have this burning desire to change both my personality and my appearance. The majority of the time, the two come hand in hand. Find me a heavy metal drummer dressed in a white lace maxi then maybe I’ll take that statement back. Seriously though, sometimes it can lead to amazing experiences but sometimes I can get a bit out of control. I’ll begin comparing my life to other girls which, as we know by now, ain’t good! Then I’ll start getting sucked into social media’s standards and the latest expectations people have for “influencers” (anyone else hate that word?). In this state of mind I become very susceptible to forgetting who I am for the sake of pleasing the world. So toxic. I want this to change.

I realise I’ve slightly shot myself in the foot here because only recently did I write a post about self acceptance. It was totally candour as it was the first time I’d spoken aloud about the subject so I didn’t have a clear head about my feelings. I should probably go back once in a while and take my own advice though. Nonetheless, over 5 months later and I think I’ve finally figured myself out. Well…18 years late!

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I’m going to be brutally honest with you. I’m not the overtly-feminine gal I come across as on Instagram. I don’t twirl around in floral dresses and floaty blouses 24/7. A lot of the time I’m not too bothered about the state of my barnet or if my highlight is sister shining. It’s all in moderation though. Don’t think I’ve been cat-fishing you guys for the past 6 months! I really do love a good glam moment or dressing for all my frill and ruffle dreams in London’s latest aesthetic cafe. But that’s just it, a moment. It’s not my life and it’s not how I enjoy living for the most part. I love tattoos and mosh pits, my favourite time is the middle of the night and my obsession for thrillers is ever-growing. But hell, I can be both at the same time.

I want to be who I am and do whatever the f*ck my heart desires. I want to create something meaningful and a tad bit eccentric on my blog and in every part of my life that I can. Once and for all I’m going to let go of these stupid expectations that I’m held to as part of the younger generation. I’m not going to be forced to “fit in” anywhere anymore, I’ve got my own back from now on.

It’s so difficult in this day and age to be unique and create something that’s hasn’t been done before. Being a naturally creative person, I have plenty of ideas running through my head constantly but (until now) I never felt I could execute them. If it wasn’t a picture of a pink restaurant or a an everyday makeup post then I didn’t think people would care. As I’ve spent more time in the blogging community, learning and growing all the time, I’ve realised that there’s a crowd for everyone. I don’t need every single person to like me and my content which is what I’ve struggled to accept.

I suppose I’ll get less likes on the ‘gram and my pinterest views will drop but that’s not my priority in life. This post was just a quick message to let you know that my content on social media will be changing slightly. Expect it to be a bit more grungy than you’ve been used to and a little more laid back. It’s time for change and to express myself truthfully through my content.

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8 responses to “Time For Change”

  1. Fifi says:

    YOU GO GIRL. I love that you’re deciding to be yourself and post about YOUR interests and not what’s only considered “lifestyle blogger friendly”. I definitely can relate to the part where you stated that being glam is more of an “in the moment” thing but not your entire personality. I have a really girly persona on social media too but that frilly pink gal is actually maybe 65% of my personality, the other 40% is a horror obsessed weirdo who loves all things macabre and binges horror podcasts for 5 hours straight. Ive hid that part of myself though, because I think it converses my pink persona so much. My Pinterest even used to be mostly horror, until I changed it to my blog pinterest and now it’s the pink confection it is today 😂 i( left my horror board up though cuz I couldn’t bring myself to delete it!) But after reading this, I’ve decided, fuck it, if I wanna pin horror imma pin horror and try not to worry about it being “off putting” to my followers. This was super inspirational and has motivated me to try to start being ok with not hiding part of my personality.

    Also, I can’t wait to see your grunge posts, I’m super excited! I don’t think you’ll have any issues with losing followers, because most people don’t fit into only one niche anyways!

    Afairytaledream.com

    • Phoebe Rose says:

      YES FIFI!!! This response has made me so happy, I’ll be the first to read any of your horror-related content!! Be yourself because you’re bloody amazing and no one else can be you! It’s so easy to get sucked into becoming the ‘blogger’ stereotype but there’s a place for everyone. No need to hide parts of yourself, I’m so pleased I could inspire you!
      Thanks so much lovely, you’re the sweetest xx

  2. This was very relatable, as someone who changes hair colour everyday I totally understand where your coming from! Good luck for future!

  3. I don’t know how I missed this post but GURL, I can relate! I feel like I’ve spent a long time pretending to be someone I’m not or filtering my thoughts, feelings and opinions to fit what’s in trend but I’m Francisca Rockey, the only Francisca Rockey and I’m going to do ME. Brands will want to work with me and my values and not a fake persona I put on to be liked. I won’t shy away from being an activist just because the typical blogger thing to do is to keep quiet about current affairs. Yeah I lose followers every time I mention Brexit but idgaf *shrugs shoulders*

    Fran | http://www.franciscarockey.co.uk

    • Phoebe Rose says:

      THIS IS WHAT I LIKE TO HEAR, YES FRAN!! You also gain followers who you share opinions and values with so it’s never a bad loss! We have to be unique and ourselves in this confusing and stressful world

  4. natashaketel says:

    Thank you so much for sharing! I completely understand where you are coming from- there always feels like there is a pressure for a person to fit in and doing your own thing can sometimes be a little scary. But, I’m so glad that you have recognised that it is much much much more important for a person to be genuine and express themself in their own way. I can’t wait to see your new content, I’m sure everyone will love it. I certainly will!

    • Phoebe Rose says:

      Thank YOU so much for this lovely comment, I appreciate it so much. It feels so good to know I’m not alone with this, we should all embrace whatever creative direction we want to go in! x

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